Courage Apostolate Melbourne

War, God and Sexuality

2010-10-23T10:06:00.002+11:00

When members of the Westboro Baptist Church of Topeka, Kansas picketed outside 20-year-old Marine Lance Corporal Matthew Snyder funeral at St John's Catholic Church in Maryland yelling out "God hates fags" and "God kill US soldiers to punish gay Americans", it's another sign that some of the Christian right has taken it too far once again and showing no respect to the bereaved (this was at a funeral!).

I'm wondering if these Westboro Baptist church members have thought about what Christ said on compassion and not judging others? It is so simple to put oneself on the moral high ground and condemn others.

In such times when the gay community across the world is on the attack for Christians and conservatives being homophobic, why are we giving them the chance for this criticism? I don't think we'll know fully of God's will until our own Judgment Day, so why the haste in thinking we do and denounce everybody else in the process?

Homophobia

2010-10-22T23:32:00.003+11:00

I saw an article on The Age "Coming out: gay friendly school form rainbow alliance" (Farrah Tomazin October 21, 2010) which talked about the difficulties high school students across the state may face when they show their pride of their sexual orientation, and the dangers of being targeted because of that.

I must admit that not only is homophobia present in schools, but also churches. CATHOLIC churches. I personally have not heard any remarks directed any one person who was homosexually orientated, for the sake of hurting their feelings or mocking them for their sexual orientation. However, I have experienced infinite times the pain of listening to gay jokes, to homophobic comments, and to be talked about like I was diseased.

Since the author of this article is still in the closet, I can't go up to these people in my church who are making the jokes and comments to STOP IT because it will give me away. My facial expression will show the disappointment and anger. I can only rely on others to tell these culprits to respect those who are same-sex attracted, but these people who will stand up for me are not always available.

In the mean time, I'm trying to reflect on all that I say, just in case I've hurt somebody like myself who cannot defend themselves.

2009 Courage Conference

2009-07-29T07:23:00.003+10:00

The 2009 International Courage and EnCourage took place at Villanova University, Philadelphia, Pennsylvania from the 9th to the 12th July.

Part 1 Summary from Courage Melbourne

Our EnCourage Melbourne Co-ordinator Marie Mason attended the full conference and was blown away by the humility of Fr Paul Check, the director of Courage. Fr Paul Check was also impressed with the vitality of our Melbourne group and the keenness which we have to reach out to our brothers and sisters who also suffer this same temptation of same sex attraction, or to their relatives and friends whom might not understand this trial and does know how to help their loved ones in moving towards a chaste life to be in union with Christ.

There were talks on morality, emotional pain, shame and cause of homosexuality, freedom of will, body image, and two testimonies by Courage members, etc. Some of the speakers included Fr Paul Check, the director of Courage; Fr John Harvey OSFS, Dr Joseph Nicolosi and many other priests and experts in this field.

Book Review: Homosexuality and the Catholic Church

2009-06-10T17:40:00.003+10:00

By Fr John F Harvey OSFS

As the founder and reictor of the courage and Encourage support gruops, Fr John Harvey OSFS is aware of the sensitive nature of homosexuality. With his extensive experience ministering to those with same-sex attraction, Fr Harvey presents the Church's teaching in an objective and pastorally-sensitive manner. Priests, religious, and laity alike will benefit from the many questions considrered here.

(book summary taken from Ascension Press)

Book Review: Beyond Gay by David Morrison

2009-05-29T15:13:00.004+10:00

The following book review is taken from AD2000 Vol 15 No 4 (May 2002), p. 17 by John S Webster.

Beyond Gay provides a challenge to both attitudes. The author, David Morrison, once a leading homosexual activist, now is at the forefront of promoting chastity for those who are attracted to persons of the same sex.

The first chapters of Beyond Gay are autobiographical. Morrison describes his same sex encounters as a teenager before becoming a homosexual activist as a young adult. Morrison's conversion can be said to have occurred in stages. He become and remained a committed Christian while still being an active homosexual. Gradually, however, he became convinced that homosexual practice was incompatible with Christianity. His decision to live a chaste life was soon followed by a decision to enter the Catholic Church.

Morrison's approach to the issue of same sex attraction is faithful to Christian teaching. While a same sex attracted person did not choose his or her attraction, nevertheless, the Church teaches that all genital acts with a person of the same sex are sinful. Underlining the author's analysis is the conviction that sexual activity between persons of the same sex does not lead to happiness, even within committed, long term same sex relationships.

Beyond Gay also deals frankly with issues such as long term homosexual relationships and teenage "coming out". For example, citing recent research, Morrison argues that deciding upon a same sex attraction identity too young and engaging in homosexual activity can have a severe negative psychological impact.

Compassion

At the same time, Morrison does not intend to "throw stones at men who experience same sex attraction or even those who act upon the temptation" (p. 19). Throughout the work, he shows compassion towards people who experience same sex attraction and reminds the reader that the Christian response should be a love of all people, regardless of their orientation, and zero tolerance of belittling of, name calling, or violence towards homosexuals.

Practical advice and reassurance is offered, for example, to parents of homosexuals and a portion of the book discusses strategies designed to assist those who experience same sex attraction but wish to live out their Christian call to holiness, focusing upon the centrality of prayer, Eucharist, confession and works of charity.

Beyond Gay is a significant work which addresses the issue of same sex attraction from a Christian perspective. Balanced, compassionate and faithful to Christian teaching in its approach, it would be useful reading for those involved in ministry, education, and those experiencing same sex attraction, along with their families and friends.

John S. Webster is a Melbourne Catholic writer

The Official view of the Catholic Church on Homosexuality

2009-05-21T16:15:00.003+10:00

As there are so much misunderstanding from the society, the media and even Catholics about what the official views are from the Catholic church on homosexuality, here they are copied from the Catechism of the Catholic Church:

Catechism of the Catholic Church 2357-2359 {revised edition} :

2357

"Homosexuality refers to relations between men or between women who experience an exclusive or predominant sexual attraction toward persons of the same sex. It has taken a great variety of forms through the centuries and in different cultures. Its psychological genesis remains largely unexplained. Basing itself on Sacred Scripture, which presents homosexual acts as acts of grave depravity, tradition has always declared that "homosexual acts are intrinsically disordered." They are contrary to the natural law. They close the sexual act to the gift of life. They do not proceed from a genuine affective and sexual complementarity. Under no circumstances can they be approved.

2358

The number of men and women who have deep-seated homosexual tendencies is not negligible. This inclination, which is objectively disordered, constitutes for most of them a trial. They must be accepted with respect, compassion, and sensitivity. Every sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided. These persons are called to fulfill God's will in their lives and, if they are Christians, to unite to the sacrifice of the Lord's Cross the difficulties they may encounter from their condition.

2359

Homosexual persons are called to chastity. By the virtues of self-mastery that teach them inner freedom, at times by the support of disinterested friendship, by prayer and sacramental grace, they can and should gradually and resolutely approach Christian perfection.

Some Frequently Asked Questions that Courage Receives

2009-05-17T15:06:00.003+10:00

This has been copied from the "Courage - FAQ's" page (http://couragerc.net/FAQs.html):

Q. Why doesn't Courage use the terms "gay" and "lesbian"?

A. Courage discourages persons with same-sex attractions from labeling themselves "gay" and "lesbian" for the following reasons:

1) The secular world usually uses those terms to refer to someone who is either actively homosexual or intends to be. When a person decides to "come out" and say "I am gay" or "I am lesbian", the person usually means "this is who I am - I was born this way and I intend to live this way. I have a right to find a same-sex partner with whom to have a romantic sexual relationship." To "come out" as being "gay" or "lesbian" doesn't usually mean "I have homosexual attractions and I have a deep commitment to living a chaste life".

2) By labeling someone, we discourage those who may wish to try and move beyond homosexual attractions. Some people, especially young people, are able to further their psychosexual development with spiritual and psychological aid. If we labeled them "gay" and "lesbian", they might think there's no possibility of moving beyond these attractions.

3) There is more to a person than one's sexual attractions. Even if one experienced same-sex attractions for most of one's life, he or she is first and foremost a child of God created in His image. To refer to that person as "gay" or "lesbian" is a reductionist way of speaking about someone. We are even trying now to avoid using the term homosexual as a noun, or as an adjective directly describing the person (i.e. homosexual person). Although it takes more words, we prefer to speak of "persons with same-sex attractions". Fr. Harvey has said that, if he could, he would rename his first book "The Homosexual Person" to something else like "The Person With Homosexual Attractions".

There are people within the Catholic Church who might argue that those who label themselves "gay" or "lesbian" aren't necessarily living unchastely. That's true, but the implications of the terms in today's society don't commonly connote chaste living. Furthermore, they are limiting their own possibilities of growth by such self-labeling, and reducing their whole identity by defining themselves according to their sexual attractions. At Courage, we choose not to label people according to an inclination which, although psychologically understandable, is still objectively disordered.

Q. Why are homosexual attractions considered "objectively disordered"? Isn't that a harsh term?

A. The term "objective disorder" is a philosophical term. It is used to describe homosexual attractions because such attractions can never lead to a morally good sexual act. It is objected that if a man lusts for a woman or vice versa, this too is an objective disorder. This latter example is not an objective disorder, because, if the man or woman learns to control their heterosexual attraction, and wills to express it in the natural state of marriage, it is a good thing.

The term "objective disorder" may strike some of us with same-sex attractions as being harsh, because we feel that we never asked to have homosexual attractions and we fear that this term is in some way condemnatory or derogatory. It is important to remember that "objective disorder" is a philosophical term which describes a particular inclination - it does not diminish our value and worth in the eyes of God.

It is psychologically understandable that certain people struggle with homosexual attractions. The Church recognizes this and does not condemn people for simply having these attractions; however, the Church also teaches that homosexual acts are always immoral, and therefore, one must also accept that the inclination to engage in such acts is, philosophically speaking, objectively disordered.

Above all, we must keep in mind that homosexual inclinations do not make up our true identity as rational or Christian persons. We are first and foremost men and women created in the image of God - we are exceedingly precious in God's sight and we have been given the gifts of intelligence and free-will. We can live a life of union with Christ, through prayer, and we can know the peace of interior chastity. This is God's desire for us, and He continually gives us the grace to live it.

Q. Does Courage force it's members to try to change their orientation?

A. Courage members are under no obligation to try to develop heterosexual attractions, because there is no guarantee that a person will always succeed in such an endeavour. Courage's aim is to help persons with same-sex attractions develop a life of interior chastity in union with Christ. If any of our members wish to go to professionals to explore the possibility of heterosexual development, we will stand by them, by helping them to keep the deepening of their Catholic faith and obedience to Christ as their first priority. Courage itself does not provide professional therapy. Some of our members have found varying levels of heterosexual development to be a by-product of living a chaste life for a period of time; however, the goal and focus of Courage remains a life of interior chastity, humility, and holiness, which can be achieved by all, with God's grace.

Q. Is Courage an Ex-Gay Ministry?

A. Courage does not consider itself an Ex-Gay ministry for the following reason: Many Courage members have never labelled themselves "gay" prior to coming to Courage. This does not mean that they were unaware of their experience of same-sex attractions - it simply means that they had never chosen to label themselves "gay" in the first place, either because of a dislike of the reductionist nature of the term "gay", or because they kept their struggle with homosexuality private. Courage prefers to think of itself as a "Pro-Chastity" ministry.

The Five Goals of Courage

2009-05-13T15:37:00.002+10:00

The following five goals of Courage were created by the members themselves, when Courage was founded. The goals are read at the start of each meeting and each member is called to practice them in daily life.

1. Live chaste lives in accordance with the Roman Catholic Church's teaching on homosexuality. (Chastity)
2. Dedicate ones life to Christ through service to others, spiritual reading, prayer, meditation, individual spiritual direction, frequent attendance at Mass, and the frequent reception of the sacraments of Reconciliation and Holy Eucharist. (Prayer and Dedication)
3. Foster a spirit of fellowship in which all may share thoughts and experiences, and so ensure that no one will have to face the problems of homosexuality alone. (Fellowship)
4. Be mindful of the truth that chaste friendships are not only possible but necessary in a chaste Christian life and in doing so provide encouragement to one another in forming and sustaining them. (Support)
5. Live lives that may serve as good examples to others. (Good Example/Role Model)

Booklet Mail Out

2009-05-05T16:00:00.000+10:00

In November 2008, there was mail out of 4000 "Homosexuality and the Real Hope - A Catholic Perspective" booklets and 3000 bookmarks with the verse from John 8: 31 - 32 ("If you live accoridng to my teaching, you are truly my disciples; then you will know the truth and the truth will set you free") to every Catholic parish in Victoria.

The booklet briefly answers some common questions regarding same-sex attraction from the Catholic Church's point of view. Some of these questions include: Is same-sex attraction determined before birth? If same-sex attraction is not genetically determined, what is the cause? Can it be prevented?

For free copies of these booklets or more information, please don't hesitate to contact us.